The feeling of not mastering enough comes sneaking up. We judge ourselves harshly because we feel like a failure if we can’t manage to do all that we’ve said we would do. Thoughts and feelings like those keep us from setting great goals in life. We don’t allow ourselves to pause and prioritize, but feel we must charge forward all the time.
Ask yourself what you feel passionate about and want to spend time doing. What do you want to do with your life while you are here? A vision is a great dream that you can stretch towards. It helps keep you motivated and helps you to remember why you chose your goals.
Change is possible for those who want to change and the brain is the key. To avoid emotional explosions, one needs to understand and learn to deal with emotions so they don’t keep building up. Since the brain is flexible, old neural pathways can be transformed. Transformation is the only way to get lasting change.
She continued to tell her story, in a whisper. Tears flowed freely over her cheeks and her chin, and she wiped them away with her sleeve. “I just wanted to help and be kind, but it was always misunderstood and wrong. I asked God for help too, but he never came.” She paused... “Instead I was sent away to get help, but I did not receive help. It was rather abuse of a child, I know that.
One reason I get so passionate about this subject is that we haven’t made much progress in the past 30 years in our development and knowledge about human mental health. Now I know that many will react to this - but before you react, look at the results we see in society. More and more young people flounder and are given pills or sent to a psychologist. Some people tell me that they “unplugged” by using alcohol after a stressful day, ending up with alcohol abuse. If we had just learned to ask ourselves what we were “unplugging” from, and in addition had learned techniques that allow us to do something about the cause. We can do that today. We can learn to cope with stress and pressure in daily life.
Peace cannot be decided by politicians, peace must be created. Even the most populated country on Earth is made up of individuals, and this is where it gets complex. Humans – you and I – must be the ones who are willing to make changes and create peace.
I was very afraid of elevators because I learned at an early age that the elevator could get stuck and then it would be hard to breathe. There was a lot of subconscious fear stored with that attitude. The result was that when I walked past an elevator my heart beat a little faster and I got a painful clump in my chest. My brain followed that neural pathway, even when I had said to myself that I was not going to use the elevator.
Once more a new drug is produced that treats symptoms instead of causes. We need to learn to cope with stress and worries, or we will end up with a society where everyone must take pills for something or other.
I had stored a lot of hate and hurt feelings during my life that I realized were eating me up from the inside. However, forgiving someone who had caused me pain was a very high threshold for me to climb over, very high indeed. To be honest, I became provoked when anyone talked about the subject.
We set high standards for ourselves, and that contributes to having a guilty conscience. For example, we have expectations about eating right, exercising enough, being there for children, family and friends as well as taking care of our work and home. All that we want to or ought to do that we don’t have time or perhaps enough energy to do. We feel pulled in several directions, creating a high level of stress in life.
When I grew up, no one taught me how to cope with all that life may consist of - from joys to sorrow, large and small challenges or problems at home or elsewhere. The past week has made it even clearer to me how important that is, and I’m not talking about treating symptoms or superficially.
When someone rolls their eyes and pats you on the head, you need to stand strong. This behavior is probably the most disguised bullying of another person, the type that results in people losing their self-esteem and belief that they can. That is why one of my goals is to strengthen each and every individual.
My message is that we should raise our awareness about how we influence the world around us every single day, and not just on one particular day. Our thoughts and behavior come from attitudes buried in our subconscious, and this is where you and I need to do something about it. Attitude changes don’t happen by themselves; you and I must be willing to raise our awareness about values that lead to good choices and actions.
If we are to create a new form of communication and find solutions together, we must be open-minded and willing to consider things in new ways. We must be willing to “think outside the box” of references that our brain has already stored. Since our brain does whatever we ask it to do.